Your life, like mine is incredibly short – no really it is.
In this series of articles I am doing my bit to make you aware of that, to make you aware of the tricks our minds play on us, on the rubbish we are told. So you don’t have to live through them, lessons that will make sense, will free you to do the things you want.
I am guilty of wasting so much time. Of thinking my life would never end. That I could go on forever, faffing around and waiting for something to come and save me. The handsome White Knight on his Charger – speeding down the high street to save me from living a mundane life.
Like you I have been waiting…
And he is not coming. Not now, not ever. Never was.
You (like me) are guilty of waiting in line, slowly moving towards a certain death at some point in the short future ahead.
You Are Like Me.
Everyone of us has an identity given to us at birth. A name, a family history, a way of doing things, could be as simple as a tradition of Sunday Lunch or a voting pattern, a political viewpoint.
There is always something passed down from parent to offspring and often it’s not useful at all.
You are told, don’t think like that, our family doesn’t do x or y or we do this or that.
As we grow up – well after about our seventh birthday these things become ingrained in our heads and they have an impact on everything we do from there.
Ideas you have to change the world, to improve your lot are thwarted by a voice in your head. This voice is your parenting, your upbringing. It is something you were told as a child and you built on it. And it’s still keeping you here.
In this place.
Don’t be harsh on yourself, it happens to you and me and everyone else you meet. Part of it is human nature, how we learn, how we become human.
Meanwhile, life puts a conveyor belt of ideas and opportunities your way. They flow past quite slowly at first, possible partners, houses to buy, businesses to start, habits to form.
They constantly flow by, one after the other – a line of opportunity.
Some you grab, some grab you.
And then – the next thing you know. Your identity has been formed by those things you’ve grabbed and your parents. All of a sudden your views and you opinions changed. You are given something else by – a.n other.
These are not a gift of you to yourself, you are still locked away elsewhere.
The person you hoped you’d become, the thinker or creator, the person that is loved, the life and soul, the more introverted – whatever it is you want, the bit you’ve repressed is in there somewhere.
It’s the voice you’ve heard, but not yet loud enough.
The life changing thing you wanted to do, wanted to be are all pushed to one side while you focus on that which has been given to you or those you can grasp.
None of which can offer you any fulfilment – as the clock ticks towards your certain death there are things you wanted – mainly not monetary.
People you wanted to speak with, to see, poems you wanted to write – none of them come to fruition simply because that voice in your head stopped you or a bright shiny thing on that conveyor caught your attention – that social media post that caused you to spend hours on a wasted mission.
Something a friend said, a business opportunity that you thought was ‘really you’. Could be MLM, selling perfume to friends. All of these are just things, they fly past and want your time, want you to give them energy.
And this is where our time and energy flow.
It goes towards things that are not important. Will not really change much of anything.
Being able to know what these things are, to see them coming is one of the most powerful skills you can learn, simply because it means you can spot the time suck and focus on what’s important.
Any of us can only do this by changing how we think and feel, by changing our identity, by changing who we think we are – not just running with what is given to us, by not taking what is on the conveyor belt.
You are the most important thing in your life, because everything revolves around you, if you get you right then everything changes.
How cool would that be?
Knowing that now you are right, you are no longer waiting for something to…
- Come down the conveyor belt.
- No longer waiting for something to happen before you…
- That you know your future is not dependent on what you have been given.
This is powerful stuff, and relatively easy to implement.
It is one tool that changes everything for you, allows you to break from your history, from what you have been given. And allows you to start working with your own mind, the bit that is really you.
When you are ready to get a shimmy on with some of this, then please get in touch. It’s dead simple to learn and really is life changing.
It will show you how to…
Refuse to accept what you are given.
Teach you how to get release from your past.
What you need to do in order to transform your life.
It’s not complicated but you do need to know how.
Mums and Dads are not always to blame, but this Phillip Larkin poem sums up how many of us live our lives, we have things in our lives that we think are traditions and are good to have, indeed some are. But most of the things we are handed down are useless to us or hold us back – give you and I a way of doing things that does not make sense.
Some of my work around money and mindset is working out what these things and what genuinely serves us, focusing on what it is you really want and then making that a reality. For most of us that is often just feeling better about ourselves – making choices for us and not for that voice in our head or something our parents have given us.
When you are ready to get a shimmy on with some of these. Use the link below to ‘borrow my brain’.
The poem that inspired this article is below. Thank you to Phillip Larkin.
This Be The Verse
BY PHILIP LARKIN
They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.
But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another’s throats.
Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don’t have any kids yourself.